These skills, this understanding of values that help us build meaningful relationships with those around us, are part of a field referred to as social-emotional learning. Below, you will find a selection of attributes kids should develop, suggestions on how to prompt a conversation about them at home, and activities you can do with your child to teach her these skills.
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Empathy, patience, and other social-emotional skills are essential to your childโs success. This guide illustrates how you can foster their development at home.
When I think about a superhero, I imagine someone who is strong, resilient, and honest. Someone who cares about others and is willing to stand up for what she believes in.
These skills, this understanding of values that help us build meaningful relationships with those around us, are part of a field referred to as social-emotional learning. There is increasing research that non-academic skills relating to kidsโ ability to regulate their emotions and interact with others help them succeed in and out of school.
Below, you will find a selection of attributes kids should develop, suggestions on how to prompt a conversation about them at home, and activities you can do with your child to teach her these skills.
1. Adaptability
How we define it: Openness to changing conditions
How to start a conversation about it: โWhat is something unexpected that happened to you last year? How could you have dealt with it better?โ
What you can do to promote it: Next time your child is witnessing you confront a change (big or small, expected or unexpected), point out what you are doing to cope. For example, if she is with you in the car when you get lost, talk her through how you are going to find a new route, and show her how the extra time in the car can be used for something fun โ like a favorite song.
2. Attention
How we define it: Selective and purposeful direction of the mind
How to start a conversation about it: โDid you notice the sunset today?โ
What you can do to promote it: Because so much of our days are spent on autopilot, it is important to stop and notice the little things โ like nature, sounds, or our own thoughts and emotions. You can get your child to exercise her ability to pay attention by having her describe how she is using her five senses to perceive her surroundings.
3. Bravery
How we define it: Ability to overcome fear and uncertainty by taking action
How to start a conversation about it: โWhen you are doing something you feel is scary, what kinds of thoughts help you get through that moment?โ
What you can do to promote it: Point out moments of bravery that happen around you, whether they happen on a TV show or in your neighborhood. You can also share a memory with your child about the last time you had to confront a fear.
4. Civility
How we define it: Use of respectful words and actions towards others
How to start a conversation about it: โPlease donโt be afraid to tell me if Iโm ever rude to you.โ
What you can do to promote it: The words we use and our tone matter. Focus on the way that you communicate your disagreement in front of others and your child is sure to learn from your example.
5. Empathy
How we define it: Ability to intuit and sense what others may be feeling
How to start a conversation about it: โHow can you tell if someone is sad?โ
What you can do to promote it: Be intentional about sharing your own feelings and emotions at home so that your child can see that even grown-ups feel different things all the time. You can encourage your child to be in tune with how others may be feeling with thought exercises. For example, pick a character from a recent book and ask your child to imagine how that character may have felt in a given scene.
6. Forgiveness
How we define it: Acknowledgment of wrongdoing without seeking revenge or punishment
How to start a conversation about it: โHow do you feel when someone says they are sorry for hurting you? How do you feel when you say you are sorry to others?โ
What you can do to promote it: Share a story about a time you forgave someone who hurt you and what you learned from the experience. Then, ask your child to think about a time she forgave someone even though she was hurt by that personโs actions.
7. Gratitude
How we define it: Expression of thanks for things given or benefited from
How to start a conversation about it: โWhat are you grateful for today?โ
What you can do to promote it: Post a simple gratitude list on your refrigerator door or dry erase board in a common area of your home. Encourage every member of your family to add an item once a day.
8. Honesty
How we define it: Expression of oneโs own truth
How to start a conversation about it: โWhen was the last time it was difficult for you to tell the truth about something? What about that situation was difficult?โ
What you can do to promote it: Practice sharing honest observations about yourself (e.g., โI notice that when I do X, Y happens”).
9. Humor
How we define it: Playful and lighthearted approach to life
How to start a conversation about it: โHow do you feel when you make other people laugh?โ
What you can do to promote it: Share jokes with one another or watch funny shows or movies together. Itโs also helpful to show your child that you can laugh at yourself; so next time you do something inadvertently silly, teach her that having a giggle at yourself can make embarrassing moments easier.
10. Patience
How we define it: Calm and steady approach despite discomfort
How to start a conversation about it: โI keep my cool when something is upsetting by doing X. What do you do?โ
What you can do to promote it: Encourage โfamily silent timeโ for five minutes a few times a week โ for best results, practice daily. This will teach your child to be able to appreciate stillness and develop her patience.
11. Resilience
How we define it: Capacity to recover from adversity
How to start a conversation about it: โWhen is the last time you had to try something a few times before you got the hang of doing it?โ
How to start a conversation about it: Make a list of five difficult things youโve overcome, then share this list with your child. Have your child do the same.
By modeling and encouraging your child to practice these skills, you are teaching her to integrate a major aspect of human intelligence โ social-emotional awareness. In doing so, you open a new gateway of connections and enable her to experience what it means to be fully human.
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